Accept yourself !

This might be my second post related to body confidence.If you haven’t read the first , just click the link below.

https://myblog0024.wordpress.com/2020/09/21/ballsy-bold-badass/

So, there have been times, when my friends around me keep whining about their body and how uncomfortable they feel in showing their skin. I tremble at the mere idea of their discontent that compels them to go on a strict diet , compromise on their food , exercise rigorously just for the sake of feeling confident while wearing shorts or crop tops or bikini. To some part , I do appreciate their efforts in reducing their weight or getting in shape , but I am piqued by their reluctance to wear what they like in the way they are. Rather than focussing on getting slimmer or getting bustier or having that ideally perfect 36-24-36 size , why not focus on staying healthy and eating healthy.

You might say, it is easier for me to talk about all this shit, but trust me , I was way too skinny during my school days and even my junior college days.I gradually started putting on some weight during my Bachelors’.And a gentle reminder to all the people out there , the torture suffered by underweight people weighs as miserably as that endured by the overweight people.Undeniably, an avalanche of remarks and judgement and criticism and what not! Critics are anyway born to hurl derogatory words at every second thing they come across, right?

This is just not limited to the size and shape but also to the looks , the appearance. Like, a person is never satisfied by his or her own looks. Lets say this is a very natural human tendency to keep grudging about looks. People with fair skin intentionally get tanned and those with whitish or dusky skin wants to get a fairer skin tone.Now , if we thoroughly analyze the whole situation , the whole whining and grudging could be blamed on “comparing”. It’s so not uncommon to compare yourself with others.There would be so less percentage of people who openly accept their insecurities , their flaws, etc.

Well, if you are wondering, what makes me qualified to preach the “self care and self love” lessons, let me tell you , I got loads and tons of stretch marks on my calves, on my butt, but to be honest I have never tried to hide them. Mainly because I didn’t know how to hide when I was young, LOL!. And talking about now , I feel matured enough to accept my stretch marks , the way they are.I mean as far as you’re putting on the foundation/concealer (I’m not a make up artist to know this shit) to cover them JUST for the sake of enhancing your beauty and clearly not for hiding, its perfectly okay, I would say. I got pigmentation around lips, an uneven skin tone, slightly darker underarms, etc. And I am absolutely okay with it. Gone are the days , when I used to complain about these flaws and imperfections on my skin and on my body.

So , here comes a ‘Friendly Reminder’ – You would be just caught in a web of lies by following models and celebrities on social media and fantasizing all the photoshopped pictures of their plastic body.You must know, they feed nothing apart from a steady diet of misinformation and fantasy.So the next time if you’re stupefied by Kylie Jenner’s picture on Instagram, remember that you’re gonna have paroxysm of fear due to the trouble distinguishing fact from fiction.

Steady the buffs and love yourself!

I hope I didn’t make you feel like ”engulfed in burbling inanities”.

Prejudice against anomaly

Question begin with ‘Quest’ – quest for curiosity so that we can abjure the legacy of uncertainty ,tumult , chaos. Superstitions, gossips all combined feed lies to wolves hungry for conspiracy theories , ultimately obscuring the reality.

• Why does it happen to be always a man telling his wife ” I want to give you a life of luxury!” and not the other way round?
• Why everytime only a  man is expected to assist a lady carrying multiple or heavy luggages?
• Why everytime it’s the man who is obligated to pay on a date with his lady ?
• Why, its the  boy who is being mocked at for using makeup or for wearing girlish clothes and not the girl when she wears men’s t shirts or shirts ?
• Why only a girl is expected to have all the perfect features & characteristics to be able get married and not the boy ?
• Why everytime it’s the girl in the family who is most denigrated for choosing a boy of different caste than a boy who choose to marry a girl from other caste ?

You see a common thing in this- prejudice against anomaly. I don’t intend for any sort of quotidian ranting and raving about ‘female injustice’ or subject you guys to mundane harangue on ‘equality for women’ .

But ,whenever there is an aberrance from the conventional , it happens to create a fuss. People tend to be reluctant in accepting unconventional things in their day to day life.They leave no stones unturned to foil attempts of those who want to approach their life in an idiosyncratic manner , who want to adopt bizarre methods in their itinerary. They sow the seeds of casting aspersions on or taking mickey out of people hankering for avant garde ways .This simply impugns the mettle underneath .Such situations paint a dire picture of the world’s future.It is the change that leads to transformation or a revamp.Transformation would mean a literal change in something – irrespective of from a good to bad or bad to good. But I wanna convey the importance of improvement/ revamping in our lives. Unless you embrace any sort of modification in your life , you ‘ll desist your own progress and ‘ll be susceptible to degression.

If carving a path of our own rather than blindly following the one accepted by the society makes us a pariah then ultimately our exploration on what's in store for us shall be hindered.

Hope you excuse my grammatical errors or typos, if any.

Ballsy-Bold-Badass

Thanks for stopping by!

I’m not sure how relatable I’m gonna get here, once I start penning down thoughts focussing on boldness, since, several times, chaos in my mind happen to sidetrack the blog and I end up typing about some different topic.

I’ve been questioned several times by people , regarding my clothing . They bombard me with “How can you wear revealing clothes,all the time ?” or “Why do you try to be so ostentatious and flamboyant with your clothes?”. Honestly speaking, I have a predilection towards clothes which can flaunt my body as it makes me feel exuberant and confident and close on the heels, the sexiness emanated from it.

Born in an Indian family , we girls are being instructed not to expose our body, since it delivers a wrong message to the men out there and ultimately leads to untoward incidents. It is not easy to stem the tide of this opinion of our ancestors,which is bereft of the truth that human mentality is to be held accountable for this and not our clothing. We’ve to keep kicking our heels untill this notion or perspective becomes a thing of the past.No doubt , world is not safe for females even today, be it the 21st century. But does that mean , we should shy away from wearing clothes we desire to don.Definitely a big NO ! And if you’re to consider the latter part of the family’s notion mentioned above , well, irrespective of our clothing, our safety lies in our own hands ,right?

The world still looks in awe to some extremely eccentric and unorthodox ways of clothing.Some off-the-wall outfit or a costume would sound far fetched for this world.Those adopting unconventional and idiosyncratic fashion are greeted with derision and disdain, let alone roaming buck naked. Isn’t this in stark contrast to the days of modernisation and upgradation ?

Change cannot occur without change!

Unless we express the change and manifest it with conviction & confidence and certainly not getting bogged down by the opprobium generated, we would not be able to come out of our ordinary and pedestrian shell of our life.Eventually, this will make world question the conventional patterns and would compel them to pave way to new ways of thinking.

Make up

“Uski beti kitna make up karti h , pura din bus lipstick lagake ghumti h !”

Well , If you’re Indian ,you definitely might have come across such stereotypical aunties and their looks with askance, atleast once in your life ! Lucky you , if you have not ! Because to say “you’ve eluded them” would be far-fetched and “Whisper &Smear Campaign” is their moto.

No wonder ,all those aphorisms , ‘Looks are superficial’ ,etc do promulgate reality. But they don’t stop you from enhancing your already beautiful biological features!There are times when we feel so bogged down by looking at someone else’s symmetrical eyebrows or alluring lips and thoughts like ‘we don’t measure up to this standard of “beauty” ‘ start surfacing our mind.
Make up is a therapy for this .No matter ,how ephemeral and temporal this would be ,its just enough to bolster your confidence in yourself.And there you would be with all the ebullience and exuberance flowing through and around your mind & body as naturally as the air we breathe.

And how ridiculous is this alliance between a girl who loves during make up anytime or everytime and her capability to do work,be at her job or managing household chores.I mean,if putting on some lipstick and liner helps her feel confident ,why shouldn’t she ?So,eschew those preposterous tell tales and do whatever you feel would make you look more beautiful!

My canvas

Unless you give it a try , you cannot explore yourself .During my school days , I arrant despised and used to elude my drawing classes.

Recently , after trying my hand at simple sketches I decided to take a step ahead and try easy-peasy canvas paintings .This helped me develop confidence and motivated me to try more.

Well,to talk about social media ,in my opinion ,you must share and publish as much as you can .This will provide you with the mixed reviews on your work from your friends which will allow you to think from different perspectives.

Cheap and cheerful skin care routine

Its been quite a few months since I have blogged a topic in particular. This idea emerges from my today’s refreshing bath with gram flour and milk when I realised this is something which I can disseminate information on.I happen to deviate a lot.Sometimes I happen to begin with a topic which I decide to set my focus on and end up penning down words on some arrant different topic. Let me not jinx my own blog this time!

We , Indians are known for the best usage of all those which are naturally available for instance ,gram flour, turmeric, sandalwood, aloe vera ,etc.for the enrichment and nourishment of our skin .Our dream to have a perfect skin often make us spend money behind skin care products and parlor treatments.However,this is possible without burning a hole in your pocket too.Home remedies do wonders on our skin , minus any side effects.

Our grand parents led an austere life be it in terms of food,clothing and what not. We might have rarely heard of grand mothers and great grand mothers drop by the spa and salons to get their manicure or facials or hair spa done and yet had this glowing,gorgeous and impeccable skin that every woman desire for .The reason is evident here.They availed the benefits of such naturally grown things as much as they could .They were not as prodigal as we are today when it comes to taking care of our skin or body as a whole.They were not ignorant the way we are , of the ways in which you can utilize what this magnanimous & big-hearted bestows upon us.

Today , we are living a life of luxury where we are unwilling to step out of the cocoon.We would shilly-shally about spending bucks on our cosmetics, merely influenced by the advertisements of such zillions of cosmetic brands who are 90% indulged in “money making”.These products ,lets say , promises to restore your skin and recover the damage and even protect from further damage but the question arises which product to trust and will it work for your skin or not. In such a quandary ,only saviour are home made scrubs and masks which contain 100% natural ingredients and you do not even have to worry about emptying your pockets .May be you can spend the same money in some productive manner.

The ostentatious and flashy features of these cosmetics tempt us to purchase them. After all , we are all about putting our grandeur on airs because using the naturally grown aloe vera for face mask would be a sign of destitution or parsimony even.

Our skin is delicate and in today’s monotonous and hectic routine , our skin tends to become dry and gloomy due to stress, lack of sleepy, nutrition ,etc. exposing it to harmful chemicals of the cosmetics should be a strict NO! We should ply by home remedies instead.So steer clear of the fancy cosmetic brands trying to gain name and fame by increasing their business and stick to natural remedies !

Youth and Indian Culture

As usual, I was busy scrolling my facebook wall feed and I happened to come across a video shared by a page “101 India” narrating a story of a Deutsch woman who has been living for more than 5 years in India to find the path to spirituality.It definitely sent a shiver down my spine and got me goosebumps.

We have become completely blind to our aesthetic,beautiful and the rich Indian culture which has its very own special and idiosyncratic peculiarities until we run into some astonishing, jaw-dropping and awe-eliciting stories of foreigners living in India to obtain salvation and peace or the western countries adopting our culture and traditions.I’m definitely not opposed to this,but don’t you think somewhere deep down this is reciprocating in an untoward way.To be precise and compact, westernization is eradicating the roots of our culture and days won’t be far that our culture will be extinct.The youngsters nowadays are influenced by the concept of westernization and modernization.How can setting aside our very own languages like Sanskrit, Hindi and speaking in English the whole time just to display a highly sophisticated and ultra-modern lifestyle, be not called westernization?Since when did wearing Kurtis for young girls or draping a saree for an elderly woman become a sign of being too outdated and old-fashioned?Since when did celebrating days like valentine day and friendship day and celebrating our festivals like Diwali and Holi with comparatively less enthusiasm and zeal become so cool?”Westernization” is the answer to all of them.No doubt every package comes with a set of pros and cons and so does our India culture wherein pitfalls like dowry, etc are prevalent even in some villages today.Instead of overlooking such issues we can definitely overcome them thereby enriching the culture and leaving no sign for the hypocrites to call it a baseless culture.So, there is definitely no harm in learning and mastering the English language or donning new party-wears or trying out the western lifestyle unless it is posing a threat to effacing and uprooting our culture.As a proud Indian and a child of Mother India, we should definitely be aware of our values, of our “Sanskaras” that our elders have strived to imbibe and inculcate in us.We must learn and respect them.

Restart

via Daily Prompt: Restart

Depression because of failure is the worst thing a human experiences in life be it the failure faced by an entrepreneur in his business because of some recession or by a student who is not able to live up to his expectations of getting good grades or by a couple in the relationship.There comes a turning point in everybody’s life where one gathers the courage, puts himself together and is ready to take up the challenge.

As I was halfway through my final year of engineering, the hunch of “graduating without a job in hand” started surfacing my mind, considering my modest cgpa and an average profile. Deep down somewhere I was displeased and perturbed by the imbalance between my potential and my stats in the career till now, definitely the latter weighing less. I almost went MIA out of hopelessness.I could clearly see that I was being compelled by myself to stay motivated by keeping involved in inspirational stuff.There was a time when I was able to genuinely convince myself “Let it be” and to RESTART!

When I find myself in times of trouble

Mother Mary comes to me

Speaking words of wisdom

“Let it be” – The Beatles

To the world out there who keeps on chanting “I wish I could restart my life!” , age is just a number and you need not be the electronic gadgets like a laptop to restart yourself.You are a human and still you can reboot your life by setting your targets and ambitions.You just need to expel all that is taking a toll on your physical, emotional and mental life and draining your energy and success levels.

Jeanne Sharbuno in her book “52 Ways To Live Success”  says, “Consider that an average person can tolerate up to 100 things at a time and each one weighing 20 pounds.So, that’s 2000 pounds you’re carrying on your back in the backpack of your life!”

D-U-M-B-S-T-R-U-C-K!

We keep on telling ourselves to “never give up” .but how many of us succeed in grasping the real essence of these three words.We do bury some of our past failures but do we learn from them before taking up a new chapter?

Embarking on a new journey with or without the lessons from our failures and the confidence and contentment from our victories is what matters the most because “Life is all about sweet and sour experiences”.

To put in simple words, before the restart, you need to expel the trash or rather organize your “mind-room” cluttered with bric-a-brac, decide your modus operandi, stick to it, work hard but smart and there you’ll be with success knocking on your doors!”

Time shall stand still and the bliss will set in.

This is where you get to judiciously reestablish your life.

“Restarting the whole song over just because you missed your favorite part.”

So, get up, kick the butt, work your asses off and see the success.

 

 

 

 

Cherish the past!

via Daily Prompt: Cherish

Thanks to Ben H for today’s daily prompt: Cherish.

Loads of inspirational and motivational talks, speeches, books, quotes, sayings, etc keep flooding the internet market and the social media these days.Despite this, almost 60% of the world population today is in the state of bogged down either out of depression as a result of loneliness or failure or suffering from various ailments like severe brain damage, paralysis etc.No doubt the onset of senility brings in with it the latter ,but how unspeakable would you be when you hear”a 17-year-old dies of heart attack” or “brain haemorrhage takes a toll on a 23-year-old man” !A gut-wrenching portrait of the human life on earth, isn’t it?Multitudinous causes can be enumerated!Smoking, intense addiction to alcoholism merely for the sake of fun, insalubrious eating habits, unhealthy and unsatisfactory relationships accompanied by contentious disputes over trivial issues ultimately leading to anxiety and trauma and forget not the most concerned issue in the 21st century, the sedentary lifestyle of the people.

Well, you might be in a dubiousness that what has “Cherish” got to do with the above and where would it be leading to!

The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.

-Eckhart Tolle

Yes!The most significant part of our body-our brain!

We can blame this part for all of our negativity, our jealousy, our hostility, etc.I believe there exists a part of brain governed and ruled by all these gloom-ridden emotions.The more we surround and indulge ourselves in the world of pessimism, the more likely it is for the melancholy and cynicism to hegemonize our brain.And the more we involve in activities that incorporate spreading happiness and joy, the more likely it is that we develop and inculcate a positive attitude towards life.

Cherishing can definitely contribute to spreading happiness and joy, be it cherishing of an aesthetic scenery of a sunset or the delightful and appealing panorama of stars twinkling in the sky, be it the cherishing of virtuousness and bounteousness of a philanthropist or the glamorousness and gorgeousness of a young lady, be it the cherishing of your past or the moments in the present that you are living right now.

The past is to be learned from not lived in.

It is our past that guides us in our life.We make mistakes, we learn from them and move on.This is the guru mantra to attain the pinnacle of success, because “Losers live in the past; Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present toward the future.A life completely devoid of challenges and efforts would merely a lackluster story. “Rather than criticizing and condemning our past why not chose the path of admiring and appreciating the bygone days.Why not cherish those days of our endurance and efforts irrespective of whether we were succeeded or failed?Why not cherish those pitfalls we experienced while accomplishing a particular task?Why not cherish that faux pas which is too hard to be overlooked?Had there been an absence of them, what kind of success you could’ve bragged and boasted of?

Well, then go ahead, cherish what you’ve attempted or committed in your past because,

The past cannot be changed but the future is yet in your power.

Life: A voyage

Having sustained myself for 20 years,life has exhibited its trailer at such an age where an adult has almost reached the turning point in his  life.Now you might feel what  a 20 year old girl might have suffered agony to such an extent which has made her realize that life is an expedition we have already set our foot on and cannot turn our back on it.

Life definitely presents us with all kinds of emotions be it happiness or sadness,fear or anger.They say,”When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry,show life that you’ve thousand reasons to smile.”Indeed!Life is how we mould our thoughts,how we react to the situations we’ve to go through.For a girl losing her father at such a tender age is as bad as losing her hero ,her  love and surely a guiding hand on her shoulders.Never ever had I thought of such an unforeseen episode in my life.No doubt, accidents and mishaps on the roads can never be foreseen,calamities and disasters in the nature come unforetold, cataclysm in the world can never be forecasted. Similarly, the tragedies in our life are like bolt from the blue.They come all of a sudden and there you’re :flabbergasted and benumbed!You enter into a state of absolute astonishment where you’re completely unaware of how to respond.

That’s where life teaches you to overcome such setbacks.Then and there you get to know the real essence of life.Life’ll no longer  remain an adventure if there are no fluctuations in it just as the heart monitor goes flat when the patient is dead.It’s up to us how we deal with and defeat them.

Life may be full of pain,but that’s not an excuse to give up.

Watching two little girls playing merrily with their father certainly reminds me of my father.But when I see an orphan begging on the streets to survive ,definitely makes me feel bad but helps me in suppressing my low spirits.I,then look at the brighter side of my life,the perks life has awarded me with.That’s how I discovered my ways to triumph over the melancholy and accomplish the voyage of my life I’ve already embarked on.